Parenting vs. Dog Training

It is difficult being a Parent, especially since your child does not come with a manual.

Thankfully we have our parents, family, friends and our church to fall back on.  Right now I am attending a Sunday morning class for dads and dads to be.  We are going through a book called Better Dads, Stronger Sons by Rick Johnson.  He is a great writer and since I do not have a son, I will be starting his That’s my Girl: How a Father’s Love Protects and Empowers His Daughter.

Today our teacher was going over Chapter Seven, Discipline.  This is what I need to know about, how do you get your child to do what you ask and how do you teach them that if they do something they may get hurt doing it?  Well, we did not get through the whole lesson, so we will pick up where we left it next week.

One thing we did talk about, that I thought was really cool, was how so similar training a dog is to parenting your child.  An interesting fact about me I am a former dog trainer for PetSmart.  I went to training for two weeks, read some books, taught some classes and boom I was an accredited trainer.  (The picture below is my graduation day with my trainer.)

To hear the teacher compare the two I immediately agreed.  When I taught my classes I would explain to my PetParents that if you want your children to do something  you must be consistent, as if you want your dogs to do something, you MUST be consistent.  For instance, you want your dog to sit.  Start by using a small piece of food to lure your dog’s nose to point upward (toward the treat) and move the treat backwards over his head so that he naturally lowers his haunches to a sitting position. Don’t hold the treat too high or he may jump up for it.  Once your dog’s butt hits the floor say “YES” and give the treat, then say OK letting your dog know it is ok to get out of the sit.  You must do this for days to get the pattern down and make sure you get a good sit, it takes awhile, but sit is one of the easiest commands.

To teach your child to clean up you must show them the toys that are on the ground, pick it up and place them in the box.  You must show them how to do this every day AND give them praise for cleaning up, clapping, saying YAY, whatever it is make it fun.

Why do both of these work?  Have you heard of someone called B.F. Skinner?  He coined the term Operant Conditioning; a method of learning that occurs through rewards and punishments for behavior. Through operant conditioning, an association is made between a behavior and a consequence for that behavior.  If your dog or child is having a behavior that is not good, look for the reward they are getting and take the reward away which would be a punishment.  Once the dog or child is not getting the reward then the behavior will stop.

What is funny is that I searched for articles about parenting and dog training and found one on Modern Dog which lead me to one at the New York Times.  This article mainly talks about Cesar Millan teaching the role of the Alpha Dog, which I agree with, however I do not agree with some of  his tactics.

Do you see any similarities in dog training and parenting?  Please let me know below.

Community

This morning Ashlee, Kennedee and I had breakfast at Hardee’s and boy it sure was good. We hardeely have breakfast together, however starting this Friday we will start having it more often. It is so nice to be able to sit, eat and be merry.

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While we were eating I noticed some older couples and singles in the dining area. When an older person walked in the others knew their name and greeted them cheerfully. One older guy walked to the side and sat down and flipped open the paper. Then another guy sat at the next table and they both acknowledged each other and he opened his paper. Another fella sat at the next table and started to eat his food while greeting the other guys. Then lastly another guy showed up and sat at another table and while greeting the other three guys he opened his paper. There was a lady across the way and she said “Looks like you are having a paper reading contest.” I wonder what they guys thought when she said this?

One guy started to talk with another guy about how today was 9/11 and how he remembered where he was when it happened. He also went on talking about how he sure hoped that nothing would happen today, as in another attack or crazy stunt. Another tid-bit that he talked about was having conflicting feelings for today. His daughter was turning 33 today, but he still was thinking about 9/11. The guys went on back to reading their papers.

When we left I told Ashlee that my sociology schooling was peaked by how these guys meet up and share their lives. Ashlee than stated that they are getting what we get from going to church, which is community. Hmm, that is so right.

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I think that sometimes we get in this mindset that we go to church and once the sermon has ended we are done with our community. I personally enjoy hanging out with like minded people who love the lord. Being able to talk about concerns in our lives or just joking around is what we need in our lives. How can we be uplifted by our friends if we cannot have open communication with them? I love that when two or more are gathered there he is, you know that means you do not have to be at church to have church right?

Community is great and I hope you have, because if it was not for a campus ministry to show me this great community I would be holding the world on my shoulders not knowing what to do next. It is just a blessing to be able to tell someone your concerns, your struggles, your worries, and just to tell them about blessings that come into your life. I really hope you have found something like this and if you have not, I hope you find something like it.

Thanks for reading a dugs life.

Following My Money – Found My Idol

Have you heard of Mark Driscoll? He is the preacher at the Mars Hill Church in Seattle, WA.  I follow him on Facebook and Twitter because I find good advise and nice little one liners here and there.  The other day I was scrolling through my news feed and I saw:

If you want to find your idol, follow your money.

I did that tonight and I am not afraid to tell you what my idol is…FOOD.  Some of you may be thinking I KNEW IT or oh great here we go again when is he going to get his life right?  I would like to say I am trying, but the word trying means there should be some sort of action behind it huh, so I cannot say that.

I opened up my Arvest online banking and looked through our statement.  In the last ten days I see where I ate out twenty-two times.  I then added up all the transactions coming to a total of $159.60 or 638 McNuggets.  That is a lot of money, that is a lot of money for anything let alone eating out.  I have a six month old daughter that I have to buy diapers for, a wife to take care of, and a mortgage payment! And I am out eating this junk!

Why do I like it so much?  Why do I want the taste of this yummy goodness that comes in a sack or box? I can tell you why, because I am a

According to Dr. Oz some food addiction is as great as a cocaine addiction:

Dr Oz: Carbs, The New Cocaine?

Dr Oz did a show called Carbs: The New Cocaine? because carbohydrates may just be one of the most addictive substances out there.  Gary Taubes told Doctor Oz on another show that he believes that everyone should eliminate all carbs from their diets (click here to read that recap:Dr Oz Gary Taubes).  On today’s show, Dr Oz is not being as strict as Taubes and saying that all carbs must be eliminated – just the unhealthy carbs like the foods made from white flour such as bread and pasta.  These unhealthy carbohydrates could be as addictive as Heroine or Cocaine!  After reading this article, you will be able to figure out if you are a Carb Addict or not, and then you can go on Dr Oz’s 28 Day Carb Addict Plan if necessary.

This is so serious that Dr. Oz has come up with a 28 day Carb Addict Plan. Which I may be doing soon, I am not really sure what I want to do yet.  This plan comes to mind, the Daniel’s Fast comes to mind and reading a book called Made to Crave: Satisfying Your Deepest Desire with God. Not Food by Lysa TerKeurst.

One of the difficult things about reading this book is that fact that I do not read!  The fact that I do not read is because it is so difficult to read.  I have to stop and look up words if I do not know them.  Then there is me trying to underline the whole book because I do not want to miss anything.  Then I forget that I was reading a book and have to go back and re-read stuff because I forgot what it said.  of course all this stuff is just excuses, but it is true how difficult it is for me to sit down or lay in bed and read.

Since this post is getting so long I will stop here.  Thanks for reading a dugs life.

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