One year ago…

One year ago today I was fired from my job.  Fired, as in no more job, no more insurance, no more security and no more sense of self.  Have you ever been fired before?  It does something to someone mentally and physically.  I started to think of what I could have done differently…which I admit there were a few things I could have done differently.

Being terminated makes you feel less of a man and I hated telling my wife that I was fired.  Basicly telling her that her security has been swept from underneath her, oh yeah and she was pregnant.  So, now how were we going to pay for this birth?  When the baby gets here will we be able to feed him/her.

It was tough and the physical part is I think i ate my emotions and gained more weight, which was not good trying to fit into interview clothes.

After being unemployed for three months I found a new job:

I was so excited to get on with PetSmart as a dog trainer.  Did I say dog trainer? I mean something happened and I did not get to be a dog trainer, so I was moved into a Management position.  I was feeling on top of the world, new job, new role, new child.

Working in Management was not all that great, it was so foreign to me.  It is funny, well not really, but my Manager at PetSmart told me once that I need “more confidence”.  This punched me in the face.  My old boss from the company I was fired from told me this multiple times and I was denied four times to be in management.  I think after this was said to me I shut down at PetSmart and went on cruise control.

I mean really, HOW DOES SOMEONE GAIN CONFIDENCE! I still have not figured it out.

Well, I was on cruise control at PetSmart just trying to get my pay check, but I was able to meet a lot of new friends.  Even though I was working at PetSmart I was still looking for a new job, nay a career and I found it.

After applying for three and a half years I was hired on at ATU.  This is what I have been thinking about doing ever since I was a work study student in the School of Education.  The life of academia is great and I cannot wait to get my Master’s in College Student Personnel.

To be continued…

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This morning Ashlee, Kennedee and I had breakfast at Hardee’s and boy it sure was good. We hardeely have breakfast together, however starting this Friday we will start having it more often. It is so nice to be able to sit, eat and be merry.


While we were eating I noticed some older couples and singles in the dining area. When an older person walked in the others knew their name and greeted them cheerfully. One older guy walked to the side and sat down and flipped open the paper. Then another guy sat at the next table and they both acknowledged each other and he opened his paper. Another fella sat at the next table and started to eat his food while greeting the other guys. Then lastly another guy showed up and sat at another table and while greeting the other three guys he opened his paper. There was a lady across the way and she said “Looks like you are having a paper reading contest.” I wonder what they guys thought when she said this?

One guy started to talk with another guy about how today was 9/11 and how he remembered where he was when it happened. He also went on talking about how he sure hoped that nothing would happen today, as in another attack or crazy stunt. Another tid-bit that he talked about was having conflicting feelings for today. His daughter was turning 33 today, but he still was thinking about 9/11. The guys went on back to reading their papers.

When we left I told Ashlee that my sociology schooling was peaked by how these guys meet up and share their lives. Ashlee than stated that they are getting what we get from going to church, which is community. Hmm, that is so right.


I think that sometimes we get in this mindset that we go to church and once the sermon has ended we are done with our community. I personally enjoy hanging out with like minded people who love the lord. Being able to talk about concerns in our lives or just joking around is what we need in our lives. How can we be uplifted by our friends if we cannot have open communication with them? I love that when two or more are gathered there he is, you know that means you do not have to be at church to have church right?

Community is great and I hope you have, because if it was not for a campus ministry to show me this great community I would be holding the world on my shoulders not knowing what to do next. It is just a blessing to be able to tell someone your concerns, your struggles, your worries, and just to tell them about blessings that come into your life. I really hope you have found something like this and if you have not, I hope you find something like it.

Thanks for reading a dugs life.

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